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Why is it that sometimes some girls are very "pakipot".. And sometimes also a person na love natin are meron na pa lang ibang mahal at ang masakit pa dito ay hindi man lang natin nasabi in that peron na We love Her/Him... and in the time na sasabihin na sana natin.. She is already been takin by somebody....

By this time, in our present generation many of us are thinking on how to solve the problems that we've been encountering everyday.......

Now here some TIPS to solve Some problem...:

* Use the "Reverse Psychology".
* Don't mind anything.
* Make some new things that you've never done before.
* Lastly "Leave out all the rest to HIM".]

This is for some "Busted and Broken Hearted":

* Use your anger as your weapon of Bad day destruction.
* Transform your anger to Strength.
* Everytime na makita mo ang mukha nya Kick her Lily ASS!.

Ive been going out with this girl for bout 6 months now i fell in love with her like a month after we started dating we knew each other for 9 months we were never exactly friends the second time we hanged out we were telling each other things we never told other people like intemit and personal secrets at first we saw each other like 3 times a week but it grew to like 5 times aweek id stay at her house overnight half the week shed come to mine for some of the week she said that she loved me and never had such a strong feeling for anyone b4 well she had a serious boyfriend that lasted 3 years they were real close even ingaged he texts her and calls saying stuff like i love you and miss you she says it back 2 him i asked her why she says she still has a kind of love for him then for the past 2 weeks shes been unsure bout everything she tearfuly broke up with me and said that she needed space and i asked her if we could gether she said not rite now she loves me but still needs time and a week ago she was wearing her ex boyfriends engagment ring she swears it means nothing to her just wears it to have a ring on she swears that shes not with him or planning on being with him idk what 2 do we have a date in 4 days and it could be a start 4 us again why is she wearing the ring and why do u think she would b confused bout us ive been jealous ive brought it up alot recently but i told her i wouldnt bring up jealousy again

one day i was over my girls house with some friends it was all good until one of my friends gets a call from (bob) asking if he could come over she said she didnt care and then yeah ,i got mad knowing that she knew i couldnt see him because me and (bob) dont get along and still said he could, when he got there i tried to keep cool, they where all talking i just stayed out of it so i wouldnt cause any comotion, but i couldnt take anymore after (bob) asked her that she should got out with him somewhere and with somefriends i got up to leave the room and then he saw me and said ohh yeah and your boyfriend to, i left the room but she still stayed over ther with him and my friends then she came and asked me if i was mad i said no and then said (go talk to bob like you said just because i dont like him that mean youll wont talk to him) as she had told me that before thats why i had left the room so i wouldnt have to see it, she then got mad and did just that, what got to me is that my girl gets jealous when i talk to girls and then give me the silent treat ment and then i go to her to cheer her up let her know shes the only one for me but when she talk to guys she tells me to get over it and i should be jealous that i should trust her , which i do but not with the guys that try to get with her she tells me that i dont know that which its pretty obvious but she just cant see it in other words i feel like she can only be jealous and get mad at me because if i do it she just gets mad back at me and then i go and appologize for something i dont want to just to make everything better what should i do

I've been with my girlfriend for about 6 months now and about two months ago she started talking to her ex again after they had a falling out for about 3 months or so. I told her right away after I was told they were talking that I wasn't comfortable with her spending time with him, or even talking to him because he wasn't a good friend after they broke up, he talked behind her back, and lied about a lot of things. Also he tried to get her to cheat on her next significant other who was also one of his best friends. Also after she broke up with that significant other, she began to sleep with her ex again. However, she ignored this and went out to dinner with him, spent time alone in the middle of the night with him and ignored my feelings, causing my trust in her to fade.

We've gotten into many fights about this, and she did cut down the amount she sees him but she still devotes a full day to him even though everytime she does I get upset and we get into a fight. I've tried to get over this, but it's hard to since recently my trust in her had been hurt because I found out she had been lying about her past with him, and also about her past with her other friend that I knew she was lying about the whole 5 months, but wouldn't confess about still.

She doesn't understand why those two lies affect me so much since she didn't think they were that important, and I keep trying to tell her that if she'd lie about small things it makes me feel like she would about big things.

What should I do about my jealousy and her ex? Also how can I regain trust in her again?

I know what I instinctively do when I get angry.

I sit on it.

I want to think about it.

I want to think about what to do with it.

If the person who just said or did something that got my anger started, especially if it’s my husband or my daughter, I most especially stuff it down until I can figure out what to say.

Often the moment gets lost entirely.

I find myself grumpy or tense ten minutes later, ruminating on my anger like a cow chewing cud, and my opportunity to express myself feels lost forever.

Not so.

What I’m describing here, it seems, is me beating myself up because I didn’t know what to do with the anger I was feeling.

What’s sometimes worse is when my husband is angry.

At me.

I can handle his anger if it’s towards others.

I get behind him, confirm his righteous indignation, his enemy is my enemy.

I’m a great team player.

So where am I when he’s angry at me?

What team am I on?

The first split second I feel his coolness, I’m on team Rori.

I get my back up, I protect my back, I face off.

I’m the star goalie, defender of Rori, no angry words could possibly hurt me, I never, ever, ever did anything wrong.

Or I did everything wrong. I bounce from anger at him for being angry with me to anger at myself for causing such unbearable conflict.

I blame myself for severing love, even for this moment. It doesn’t occur to me until sometimes hours later that acting as if I’m on team Our Relationship would not only be better for the relationship, but for me, too.

All I need to do is share my anger.

We all know from reading every book on communication ever written that we’re supposed to communicate in "I feel" messages, not "You did" messages. And yet -- How do you do that?

Most of us don’t even know what that looks like, much less how to get the words out.

Not one woman (including me) that I’ve met has even seen it in our lifetime, except maybe in the movies.

Not only do we not know what it feels like to really talk in "I feel" messages, we hardly ever even know what it is we even feel!

Those of you who have been to my workshops know that a big part of my work is helping women access their feelings and then express those feelings in words a man can hear.

One of the emotions we women have the most trouble with is anger, and anger is also the emotion we often seem to have the most of!

We are all angry a good part of the time.

Perhaps it’s disappointment, or irritation, or pure rage.

Some of us have gotten seriously sick trying to hold in so much anger.

Some of us can only attract men who offend us, who make us angry, because we are so angry.

Putting a smiley face on our anger just makes it all worse, because on top of the authentic angry inferno anyone who stands next to us can sense (no matter how dense we think they are), we’re adding the disrespect of trying to hide it from them.

We’re pretending it’s not even there -- though it’s like a great big elephant sticking out of our chests.

That angry elephant trumpets through our words no matter how hard we try to disguise it.

When we pretend, we appear at best like automatons, at worst like liars.

We can seem completely out of touch with ourselves and at the same time complain about how men can’t get in touch with their feelings!

So, what to do?

1. Agree that anger, even murderous rage, is just a feeling.

It’s just energy.

And it’s most likely covering pain.

Because anger truly does feel better than pain, it’s a very worthwhile and helpful emotion.

2. Admit to ourselves that what we’re feeling is anger, and that it belongs to us, not to the man across the dinner table.

Admit that it most likely has absolutely nothing to do with that man across the table.

It may be anger from the last relationship, the last two dozen relationships, or our relationships with our parents.

And then admit that if it is about the man across the table, and he's said or done something clearly hurtful, you not only don’t have to tolerate it -- you can handle the next step! Which is:

3. Share it. This is not about venting, getting it out, or “communicating.”

It’s about sharing your feeling state in order to both keep yourself healthy and deepen your relationship with another human being. Say "I’m feeling angry."

Period.

If he asks you why –- say "I feel really angry.

And hurt.

And now I’m feeling confused.

And now I feel a little silly even telling you."

Or "Ouch -- that really hurt -- it feels terrible."

(Notice I didn’t say "You made me feel terrible" or "That makes me feel terrible", I just said "I feel terrible.")

It may seem like a little thing, and yet my work is based on the idea that these little things add up to big things, and then pretty soon your life has changed for the better and you’ve already lived through all those big changes that right now seem so terrifying.

Learn how to go a few rounds with him, responding in the moment -- even if it gets to you screaming "Now I’m so angry I feel like hitting you! I don’t want to be here anymore!" and leaving the space.

If you have to do this a lot, you may want to look at why you’ve chosen to stick around with this man at all -- which brings us right back to the question of why we hide the stuff in the first place.

Is it because we’re afraid to look at what’s really going on in the relationship, what’s really going on in our hearts?

I know it seems too simplistic to just share your feeling state.

We want to explain, to help him understand.

Actually, we just want to slap him around.

We want to punish him.

And that gets us, and the relationship, nowhere.

So where does all this sharing of feelings get us?

Every single woman I’ve taught to do this (including myself) has told me that it shifts the conversation.

It shifts the entire relationship.

Where there was once tension and a feeling of detachment, there’s now a feeling of play and connection.

Sharing our feeling state is an outrageous act of bravery.

Any man in the room can see that.

And any man can feel the utter authenticity and vulnerability of it.

Any man can feel how much you must trust and respect him to be able to open up like that, without attacking him.

Without so much as mentioning his name.

And any woman who does this, even a little, experiences a freeing up inside.

All of a sudden all the pretense goes away, and the fear of dropping the pretense goes away.

All of a sudden the need to defend, the need to be guarded goes away, and the fear of dropping our guard goes away.

There’s suddenly nothing between you and your man.

He can feel it.

You can feel it.

Where it goes from there is out of your hands.

And that, once you get used to it, is liberating.

It opens the door and parts the curtain and gives you the chance to really let love walk in.

And then it does.

Let me show you all the ways in which you can be happy and thrive in your relationship.

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